8 Things to Look For in a Husband


“Your spouse is the only family member you get to pick”

This was probably the best advice I was given as a young adult. All family members are chosen for us but we actually get to hand pick the one we decide to marry. I remember feeling so much pressure when I realized how big of a deal it was to date with intention; so here are a 8 things I think we should take into consideration before we marry a person:

  1. Honesty.
    Where secrets live, intimacy cannot. It is impossible to be close to someone who wedges lies in-between the two of you.
  2. Integrity.
    What does he say he is going to do versus what he actually does? If there is a disconnect between those two things, I would encourage you to figure out why there is a disconnect.
  3. Purity.
    When you struggle is he strong? When it comes to being alone, does he fight for your purity or is he willing to compromise for pleasures in the moment.
  4. Relationships.
    Does he have strong friendships that are healthy and challenging him to become a better man?
  5. Work Ethic.
    Whether it is at school or work, here is permission to do a little research and see what kind of work he is doing. Is it good quality and on time? Is he willing to work hard to see things come to fruition?
  6. Finances.
    It is very much okay to have conversations about debt before you enter into a marriage. Knowing where you will sit financially is extremely important.
  7. Goals.
    Is he dreaming and writing down goals with a plan to achieve them?
  8. Have fun!
    You will definitely want to marry someone you can laugh and have fun with. This will help you during times of stress and hardship.

There is no magic equation to find Mr Right; however, I believe these are a few things that will help you find a guy worth marrying. What are some other real important things to look into before you say “I do”, share it with us in the comments!


  1. Donna August 8, 2016 at 7:46 am #

    Good one I like what you have to say. More young people neeed to see this. Some people should not get married. Thanks


    • cassielittel August 8, 2016 at 10:39 pm #

      Great thoughts! Thanks for sharing!!


  2. Donna August 8, 2016 at 11:01 pm #

    Wow! Incredible advice, and I wish I was young again and could do things over. I would do them very differently. I hope all young people listen to this wise counsel! Way to go, Cassie.


    • cassielittel August 8, 2016 at 11:22 pm #

      Thanks for that encouragement and feedback, Donna. You are such an incredible lady… thankful for the times I have been able to learn from you!


  3. Chelle Krome-Vargas January 16, 2017 at 6:47 am #

    Even in your 40’s in a second-time-around courtship, these are just as important. Purity even more so. Just because you may each been married before and had an intimate life with a spouse, doen’t mean it should be in every relationship you have. And respect the man who is strong enough to stand up for his belief that a relationship that has marriage-like intimacy should not be so without the commitment of marriage. He has respect for your virtue and chasity, and you should too.


    • cassielittel January 16, 2017 at 10:44 pm #

      Thanks for sharing your heart, Chelle. Praying for you tonight! May God bless you abundantly.


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