I am extremely extroverted and highly relational. Back when I was in High School and College I always had to be with friends doing something. When my husband and I were dating, I had a blast getting to know everything about him.
It doesn’t take long for people to realize how I extroverted I really am. When you score 99% relational on a personality test people don’t need to be told you like to have relationships because they see it in the way you live.
Although you can often tell if a person is extroverted or introverted when you meet them, there are somethings that take time to discover about a person.
Here are a few confessions from an extreme extrovert…
I still value alone time. Being a people person means I often allow my schedule to fill up. However, sitting in silence with a cup of coffee, my heating blanket, and a good book fuels me too. If it’s a really good book, I can even read it for a few days in a row uninterrupted. I’ll be honest though, most of my quiet times aren’t quiet, I almost always have background noise going on.
I need relationships that go beyond surface level. Finding close friends is so important for me. I need people in my life who want to talk about things that matter. I want to talk about wild dreams and brainstorm everything we need to do to make them happen. I want to talk about real things that are really happening in our world. Deep connections and raw relationships fuel me.
I have the tendency to over commit. I used to think that this had to do with people pleasing, but the older I get the more I have noticed that I want to do as much as I can with my life. I have a high threshold to work diligently yet fast paced, so saying “yes” doesn’t tend to scare me. I have to be extra mindful of how much I say yes to. (I have learned this the hard way)
Mingling makes me nervous. My husband often teases me over this because he knows how much I love being with people; however, mingling only allows you to get to a certain point in a conversation before you hop on over to another conversation. I’d rather chat over coffee with a handful of people.
Even in my free-time I’d rather be achieving my goals. There is an ongoing joke in our home that “Cassie doesn’t like movies.” It’s not that I don’t like TV it’s just that I would rather be achieving goals. If I am doing something that feels wasteful, it drains me. I don’t have many moments of doing nothing. My husband is currently teaching me how to “turn my brain off.”
Struggling relationships can quickly consume my thoughts. If I think someone is mad at me or has expressed frustration I feel a need to fix everything right away. I want my relationships to be thriving and healthy. If they aren’t going well, then I spend a lot of time trying to come up with the best solution to fix everything.
These are just a few facts about what being an extrovert looks like in my life.
What about you?
I would love to hear how you are wired and if you can relate to any of these!