During dinner, Kyle and I were having a normal conversation when I started telling him what the lady giving me a pedicure told me. Basically she said hot showers were bad for you because it makes your skin sensitive- which ultimately causes you to bruise easily, rash easily- etc. I told him for no other reason that it was a fun fact! However, it was his response that sparked this blog…
He said to me, “well how could a cold shower be any good”
I looked at him, smiled and said… “you are doing it again”
We looked at each other laughed and moved on. Kyle and I have noticed that in our lives we are sometimes left/right jumpers. Both, he and I find ourselves doing this and something tells me, we aren’t the only ones. This is what we have labeled it in our home, maybe at your house you call it something different.
What is a left/right jumper you ask? Well I’d love to tell you all about it…
left/right jumping is basically when you hop from one side to the other rather than finding the balance or working through the problem
See what my husband did in this moment was automatically assume that if hot water was bad the solution was cold water, completely forgetting about the existence of warm water. This isn’t the first time Kyle has jumped and I can assure you that I, too, have a jumping issue. The problem isn’t when it happens during the dinner conversation, the problem is when we carry this attribute into our prayer life, relationship with God, and/or relationships with other people. I want to explain to you how I personally believe we bring jumping into our relationships and do my best to show you how unhealthy it can be.
Our Prayer Life
Have you ever been so tired of praying for the same thing over and over again? You have earnestly prayed, believed, loved- done all the above and still you see no result in your life or those you are praying for? I know I have. I know from experience that those moments can be so discouraging that it becomes easy to jump from praying to not praying.
1)Colossians 4:2 (NIV) Devote yourself to prayer, being watchful and thankful.
this is a command that is being spoken over our lives, we aught to be people who devote a life of prayer; therefore, anything pulling us from this lifestyle is not healthy.
2)Psalm 6:9 (NIV) The Lord has heard my cry for mercy; The Lord accepts my prayer.
this shows us that God hears, whether he moves or doesn’t move… he hears. we may not know why he doesn’t move but we do know that he is listening
If your prayer lines up with God’s word and come from a pure heart, the command is still to keep on praying. When we think we should see the answers and want the answer but don’t the command is to continue praying. I don’t know all the whys or whats you are praying for- but I know that God builds character is a heart that has relentless trust and love in Him- alone.
Our Relationship With God
Our relationship with God is hindered when we stop praying, because a prayerless relationship with God is no relationship at all. However, praying isn’t the only aspect to a relationship with God. How we view our God will totally affect how we pray or what we think of Him. When our view of God is ruined we will no longer be able to love him the way we are commanded to. The Bible says,
1)Psalm 136:1 (NIV) Give thanks to The Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever.
we look and learn that God is good
2)Romans 5:8 (NIV) But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were stil sinners, Christ died for us.
He isn’t just good… his love is so strong that he died so that we may have a chance and an opportunity to be reunited to God. Also: He is so strong that he was able to defeat death by rising again. We serve a mighty God and see that in his word
However, if you are imperfect- like me- then it isn’t always easy for you to give 100% to God. Why can’t you give 100% to this perfect God… because we jump. We jump from trust to doubt and in these moments of jumping we completely hinder our relationship with God.
Our Relationship With Others.
Want to know a secret? I am sensitive! So is my husband! So is my best friend! So is my brother! And my guess is that you might be to? I mean, who likes feeling like their character is being judged? Who likes feeling misunderstood? Who wants to have negative thoughts about themselves running through the minds and out the mouth of strangers, friends or family members. I know I sure don’t- so we jump!
1)1 John 4:19 (NLT) We love eachother because he first loved
We aren’t going to be able to love right unless we get the relations ship with God right
2)1 John 4:7 (NLT)Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God.
Okay, is it just me or does that scripture alone wreck you? Anyways- we can’t afford to jump in this area because this scripture says that if we love we show that we KNOW God. So what if we don’t love…what does that show?
Whether we deserved the pain or not is besides the point, at one time in our life (or more) we have been hurt by other people. When someone does something that reminds us of the pain or reminds us of that person- we JUMP. We go from great relationship to WALLS UP- now this is awkward with the person. Not everyone deserves to know all the details of your life;however, there are people in your life that I, you, my husband might be shutting out because of past hurts that shouldn’t be shut out. You have discernment for your own life or may need to seek mentorship on whom you should let in or not- but generically speaking I will say that sometimes people will hurt you when they don’t mean to. People will hurt you and be genuinely sorry. Our responsibility to make sure we don’t allow those hurts become the reason we jump. We need to choose to find the balance or work through the situation. We need to choose to love back. Love back doesn’t necessarily mean become best friends over night– love might include slow recovery; but, as the scripture shows, we can’t afford to get this one wrong.
*If you can’t tell, I have a lot of thoughts on this topic. I hope that by reading this blog you got one(or more) step(s) closer to Jesus. Although it might be a laughing matter to forget about the existence of warm water- it isn’t a laughing matter when you are jumping from trust in The Lord to distance. Because jumping can cause such negativity to who we are, my hope is that you join Kyle and I in deciding to let God grow our character and keep our feet on the ground (or just on one side of the line). My husband and I love you and thank you for reading this today!
PLEASE comment below, let me know what you think and if you’d like to read more on this topic.